WHO are you?

The other day I decided to ask my coach for some constructive criticism.

I wanted to know whether there was anything he could see about me, that I couldn’t see, that he thinks might get in the way of me achieving my goals and visions.

He replied with this:

“Yes, there is. You don’t smile enough.”




And it wasn’t the first time I’ve heard this feedback. 

It certainly didn’t feel good to have it confirmed that I gave off an unapproachable demeanour. 

As I was sat there contemplating how to respond, I realised I had two choices. 

I could either:

1) Admit defeat and accept the belief that I am just not the type of person who smiles enough. Not smiling enough is just ‘the way I am’.

2) Create myself as someone different

I think most people would unknowingly default to option 1. 

But only because they weren’t aware that option 2 was a possibility. 

Most people just assume that they are the way they are, and that’s that. 

I often hear people say ‘I’ve just always been this way, even since a child. It’s just the way I am’. 

But the truth is, that it doesn’t have to be that way going forward...

I replied to my coach with this:

“Ok, so this is my new declaration: I am ALWAYS smiling.”

I decide there and then in that moment that I AM ALWAYS SMILING. 

And guess what?

I’ve been smiling LOADS more ever since! 

My past history was irrelevant. I don’t care what the evidence says. 

I get to decide who I am. 

And so do you!!!

Who you are and the way you are is a STORY.

Every time you say to yourself or to someone else ‘this is the way I am’, what you are doing is not describing yourself to be a certain way, you are actually CREATING yourself to be a certain way. 

I am creating myself as someone who is always smiling. 

What do you want to create yourself as?

Aimee TeesdaleComment