WHO are you?
The other day I decided to ask my coach for some constructive criticism.
I wanted to know whether there was anything he could see about me, that I couldn’t see, that he thinks might get in the way of me achieving my goals and visions.
He replied with this:
“Yes, there is. You don’t smile enough.”
And it wasn’t the first time I’ve heard this feedback.
It certainly didn’t feel good to have it confirmed that I gave off an unapproachable demeanour.
As I was sat there contemplating how to respond, I realised I had two choices.
I could either:
1) Admit defeat and accept the belief that I am just not the type of person who smiles enough. Not smiling enough is just ‘the way I am’.
2) Create myself as someone different
I think most people would unknowingly default to option 1.
But only because they weren’t aware that option 2 was a possibility.
Most people just assume that they are the way they are, and that’s that.
I often hear people say ‘I’ve just always been this way, even since a child. It’s just the way I am’.
But the truth is, that it doesn’t have to be that way going forward...
I replied to my coach with this:
“Ok, so this is my new declaration: I am ALWAYS smiling.”
I decide there and then in that moment that I AM ALWAYS SMILING.
And guess what?
I’ve been smiling LOADS more ever since!
My past history was irrelevant. I don’t care what the evidence says.
I get to decide who I am.
And so do you!!!
Who you are and the way you are is a STORY.
Every time you say to yourself or to someone else ‘this is the way I am’, what you are doing is not describing yourself to be a certain way, you are actually CREATING yourself to be a certain way.
I am creating myself as someone who is always smiling.
What do you want to create yourself as?