It’s so easy, isn’t it, to look at other people who are living the life of their dreams and say ‘it’s ok for them, they had money, they had luck, they had a supportive husband, they had…’ whatever it was that you didn’t have.

Trust me, I’m not one of those people that had any of those things.

professional life coach london aimee teesdale

My story

 

I come from a working class family and a really dodgy part of the UK. I was bullied at school for being the only kid in class who didn’t wear branded trainers because we couldn’t afford it.

And for most of my early adulthood I struggled with low confidence, low self-esteem and self-doubt. At the age of 15 my Mum sent me to see a hypnotherapist in the hope it’d help me feel more confident. It didn’t work, because a few years later when I moved to London after graduating, I was a young woman who didn’t believe in herself.

"I could never run my own business", I told people, or "I wouldn't be able to go travelling by myself", like others did. I was so shy I couldn’t even say boo to a goose, let alone talk to strangers. Whilst I had always excelled at school, it didn’t prepare me for real life at all, and I had no clue how to transfer academic success into career success. I didn’t feel like I had anything to offer.

But I didn't want to be the person that says "I can't". I wanted to be the person that said "I did". 

The turning point came when my university boyfriend dumped me not long after we moved to London. I had very little to show for myself, in terms of hobbies, friends, skills and so on. I realised that I needed to GET A LIFE. A life I love. 

So that’s exactly what I did.

First of all, I designed my ideal life on paper (I call it my ‘Love Life Plan’, which you can download here), according to 8 different values: career, finance, friends & family, romance, hobbies, travel & adventure, physical health, and mental wellbeing.

I decided what I wanted for each area, and I've spent my life since putting it all into place. But I knew that the person I was back then, couldn't achieve the things I wanted to achieve. I knew I'd have to change. I knew I had to think differently about myself. I just had to figure out how to do that, how to become the person I needed to be in order to have the life I wanted. 

First of all I invested a lot of time and money into learning about personal development and putting this into practice in my own life. Then, when a chance-opportunity arose for me to go and work onboard cruise ships, I took it. I quit my office job and worked at sea for 2 years as a photographer. I'd realised that there had got to be more to life than sitting at a desk for 40 hours a week, so I went and found it. In the run up to that though, I knew that if I wanted to make my life at sea a success, I'd have to become more confident around strangers, so I decided to go travelling through South America first, by myself, in order to develop the skills I'd need. I distinctly remember at one point when I was planning my trip, closing down my laptop in frustration thinking 'don't be stupid, you can't pull off something like this!' Five minutes later I reopened my laptop thinking, if someone else has done it, then I can too. I booked it, and off I went (in floods of tears and fears, yes, but I did it! And I've never looked back.)

Fast forward a couple of years and I'd achieved things I previously didn't think I could ever achieve. I'd managed to overcome my self-doubt and limiting beliefs and become the person I wanted to be. So when I decided to start my own business, it was obvious that helping others to achieve the same in their own lives was the gift that I could offer. 

I returned to London, trained professionally in various coaching diplomas and personal development courses (investing nearly £20,000 so far), and here I am now, living a life I love whilst coaching others to do the same. I have my own business which allows me to OWN every minute of my time. I travel the world and take my work with me. My appointments fit around my powerlifting classes and I go to see my favourite DJs every month. Next year I’m on track to emigrate – it’s all part of the vision I have for my life. At the same time I work with amazing people and I get to support them in changing their life, overcoming the hurdles I once had, and it gives me goosebumps every single time. 

Don’t get me wrong – it's not always easy and my life isn't perfect. I still have doubts, fears, difficulties and insecurities. But I am constantly doing the mindset work to handle them because I know that mindset is the difference between winning and losing. 

Despite my inner voice telling me I can't, despite all my doubts and insecurities, I designed my life and my business to be the way I want it. You can too.